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A Quote For Roberto

Posted by Joni in About Him, Love

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“You’ll get over it…” It’s the clichés that cause the trouble. To lose someone you love is to alter your life forever. You don’t get over it because ‘it” is the person you loved. The pain stops, there are new people, but the gap never loses. How could it? The particularness of someone who mattered enough to grieve over is not made anodyne by death. This hole in my heart is in the shape of you and no-one else can fit it. Why would I want them to?”

~ Jeanette Winterson (Written on the Body)

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Some Girls…

Posted by Joni in Love, Video


I admit it. Sometimes we women can be pains in men’s asses. Just ask this guy …

… whose only crime was go to Europe on a backpacking vacation and turn his cell phone off. Nevermind that he TOLD his girlfriend this several times before he left. She wasn’t listening.

And just ask Kyle. His crime? Forgetting to get his girlfriend a gift for Valentine’s day one year.

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One True Love

Posted by Joni in About Him, Love, Widda Hood

Someone asked me a question the other day that kind of pissed me off and certainly offended me. She asked me when I was going to start “dating.” Dating? Good grief. The answer is a resounding NEVER. Why? I’ll tell you why. I spent the better part of my adult life chasing after men whose only flaw, as it would turn out, was that they were NOT Roberto. My mother said you only ever have one true love in life. I firmly believe Roberto was that one true love. He certainly was my soul mate.

Over the past 30 years, Robert has always been there for me. He “got me” the way no one else ever has or ever will. He was my intellectual equal, we shared the same twisted sense of humor, we loved the same things. Most importantly, we traveled well together. (How many couples can truly say THAT?!)

Simply put, there isn’t a man out there who can hold a candle to Robert so why bother looking? I’ve known unconditional love, selfless love. And I have memories of that and those, my friends, those memories, are all I need. So sorry, guys out there, breathe a sigh of relief. You’ve been spared.

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You Are…

Posted by Joni in General, Love, Quotes

You are the spring to my step
You are the star in my sky
You are the reason to be
You are ice cream
You are birthday cake
You are coffee
You are tea
You are a spring shower
You are a mountain rain
You are my gentle breeze
You are the air I breathe
You are the one I need
You are my love.

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The One

Posted by Joni in General, Love, Quotes

I want to be the one who makes you smile
I want to be the one you turn to
when you are happy
when you are sad
when you are upset
when you want to laugh
I am not the one
I want to be the one you think of
when you go to sleep at night
You are that to me
but I am not the one
I want to be the one who makes a difference
to you the way you do for me
I am not the one
but if you ask anyone who
lays awake at night thinking about you
dreaming about you when she's asleep
tormenting herself when she's awake
listening to silly songs looking
for meaningful references
listening to your words
reading between the lines looking
for permission to love
waiting in vain for a train that won't come
I am the one.

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Advice for the Lovelorn?

Posted by Joni in Love

Though I’m happy to say I no longer need this advice, having settled down happily with my soulmate since 1980 (we rediscovered one another in 1997 after a three-year separation), I found these to be mildly amusing and possibly somewhat applicable.

Read Each One Carefully and Think About It a Second or Two

1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.
2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won’t make you cry.
3. Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
4. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.
5. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can’t have them.
6. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.
7. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.
8. Don’t waste your time on a man/woman, who isn’t willing to waste their time on you.
9. Maybe the Fates want us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful. (A new spin on the old “You gotta kiss a lotta frogs before you meet a prince” cliche?)
10. Don’t cry because it is over, smile because it happened.
11. There’s always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.
12. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know you.
13. Don’t try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.